Beyond Parenthood

In my younger years, I imagined parenthood would be part of my life — but that vision has shifted with time. Culturally, this kind of question can create real pressure for many — though for me, it doesn't. Still, I've found it worthwhile to share my perspective, not to justify or clarify, but simply for mutual understanding.

I deeply respect that raising children is a profound, life-changing journey for many. Yet, for me, it is simply not the calling. My sense of purpose and fulfillment flows from other sources: my work, meaningful relationships, personal growth, and quiet contributions to the world.

Financial constraints play only a minor role in this decision. What weighs heavier is a realistic, perhaps sober, view of the future. As AI reshapes economies, we face a spectrum of outcomes — from Universal Basic Income to extreme inequality amidst an AI arms race. In the face of such uncertainty, I do not feel compelled to bring new life into the equation.

Life isn’t always sunshine and joy — it flows with both light and shadow. While bringing a child into the world can be a beautiful act of hope, choosing not to can also stem from deep care. It’s not always about fear or avoidance, but about recognizing the complexity of life, and the responsibility that comes with inviting someone else into it. After all, a child has no say in whether they should be born — that decision rests entirely with us.

To be clear, this is not antinatalism. I sincerely support anyone who feels a genuine calling to parenthood — if that is your dream, pursue it without hesitation. Ultimately, this is a personal choice; one that honors my truth while fully respecting yours. I'm grateful that my wife and I share this consensus — it makes the path clearer and lighter to walk together.

That said, if one day I become a parent — whether intentionally or by chance — I would welcome it wholeheartedly and embrace the responsibility. Never say never.

Parenting is a long-term commitment — one that ideally spans decades of presence, guidance, and support. Without confidence in that timeline, it feels more honest to choose a different path.